Sunday, 17 March 2013

"Join a Band for Fun"

My friend Victoria and I enter a large rehearsal room.  About 60 people are already there, unpacking guitars and other instruments, talking amongst themselves.  I ask myself "What am I doing here?" before spotting my friend Richard, and finding a seat at the back of the room.

Richard is a barrister whom I met during my first year in legal practice.  He had his own practice in the same corridor as the firm where I worked.  He helped me when I most needed it; when I had little experience and was burdened with work beyond my capabilities.  He became a mentor and a friend.

Over the years Richard had talked about his love of music and how he played keyboard in various bands.  I had mentioned that I enjoyed singing.   One day Richard told me about the "Weekend Warriors" program he had participated in.  It's an association that gets middle-aged people into bands.  He suggested I should do this program also.  My reaction was "Richard, don't be ridiculous; I'm not doing that."

Then one day Richard said "Why don't you come along this Sunday afternoon?   We're having a bit of a jam.  Just come along and watch."

For some reason I decided to turn up and see what it was all about.

Which is how I come to be in this place (amusingly, the Deaf Society Hall), wearing a sticky label announcing me as "Shelley - VOX".  I feel a fraud.

I settle into my seat to observe the action.

After a few preliminaries, they start to assemble the first band.  As if in a dream, I hear "And can we have Shelley and Victoria to do backing vocals."  I glare at Richard and give him a good whack on the shoulder before heading to the front of the room.  Victoria and I take our place alongside some guitarists, and are given a microphone on a stand to share.

We've got lyrics to read from.  We know these songs.  The drums start up.  The electric guitars get going.  The music is pounding.  I feel the vibrations through my body.  We're "knock, knock, knockin' on Heaven's door..."

Where has this been all my life?  How can I have survived until now, without knowing this wild, crazy feeling?  It's like the first sip of alcohol, the first puff of a cigarette.  I've entered a new world I never knew about before.

At the end of the jam, we're asked to indicate if we'd like to "do the program".  I realize that this will require more time than I've got.  With the work schedule ahead of me, I can't see my way clear to focus on music for the next month and a bit.  "Maybe next time", I tell the organizers.

I do however sign up to receive notification of the next jam session, as they are held every few months.

At the next event, I feel a bit more confident.  I write "Shelley - VOX" on my own name tag.  I put my hand up to sing lead vocals.  It feels great.  Still, I have too much on my plate to "do the program".

A few months on, I clear my calendar.  I arrange to have precisely three singing lessons and ask my teacher for advice on songs and key.  I turn up at the jam, and specify the songs I wish to sing.  At the end of the afternoon, I put my hand up.  I'm "doing the program".

Two days later, I receive a phone call to say I've been placed in a band, and that I need to attend a meeting to find out what we need to know about the program.

During the next month, we'll be working with a coach who'll be assigned to us.   We'll select songs and prepare a 30-minute set which we'll perform at a charity concert.

At this stage there's only one thing I'm sure of.  It has to be a once-off experience.  I'm a lawyer, wife and mother - I can't be in a band.  Well, just this once.

















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